Ooouch! I didn’t know I will finally get to tell this story. All I can say right now is, God is faithful! Who would have thought my man was on the way while I was tryna be cool for a fellow that doesn’t deserve me…I Got married to my Dream Man sis *look through his face and then smile* y’all feeling me right now huh?
Here’s the thing okay, sometime in June I was going through a relationship crisis. I was so down that I literally cried most nights over this guy. The relationship kept me in a state of compromise and it wasn’t even working out.
The last incidence that made me reach out to Dimma was when he said we should try out anal sex since I don’t want to have sex with him. He tried to sell me the idea that anal sex is not really compromising since it’s not the real deal. He furthered threatened that he would be tempted to get real sex somewhere since am not willing to co-operate with him.
This guy is not even married to me and he’s already talking of cheating on me…ooops!
That was the point where I needed to talk to not just anyone but someone who can relate to my story and advice me on what to do.
I met Dimma in school. She happened to be my roommate back then. I knew her as a Christian and a firm believer. I called her and opened up to her. Personally, I hardly open up to people but I just knew she was not going to Judge me….so I poured out my heart to her.
Dimma was calm, listened to my story and told me without mincing words that the guy is not my husband and as such, I should break up with him.
I was like, did she even listened to what I just said? I guess not because am just here trying to save my relationship and she’s telling me to break up. No way, the devil is a liar! Can’t we work on this thing? Is breaking up the only option? Of which she said yes. I really wanted this to work out not knowing that my flesh was crying out.
In the middle of the discussion she had to recharge her phone when I ran out of airtime. We literally spoke for hours.
She shared her story of how she met her husband and some of her experiences. In fact, she really spoke sense into me. She went further to give me scriptural basis on why I should break up with this guy.
Dimma advised me to enjoy my singleness, chase God, discover my purpose and be willing to walk in it.
It was painful, Trust me but I had to break up with this guy even though I loved him….right now I don’t really know if it was love because my eyes has been cleansed saints *Lol*
Dimma didn’t just leave me after the break up, she kept on encouraging me that the right person God intended for me will come. She also let me know that she was praying for me. There’s this strength that comes when you are in the middle of something in this thing called life and a sister is not just genuinely there for you but also praying for you. It encouraged me!
After a month of singleness and completely trusting God with this area of my life. Ouch, did I just say a month? Am gonna allow you process it fully…saints it was just a month…nothing extra, no nothing okay.
On evening the spirit of God led me to look up for an online single Christian dating site. I eventually found one and followed them on instagram.
Fastforward to August, the spirit led me again..can I get an Amen? So I commented on a post from the group.
After my comment, MrX sent me a DM . *amma chill right here and let it all out*
He told me straight up that I was his wife and he’s going to marry me….girl I was shocked and pissed off at the same time.
I let it slide because I was like girl get yourself together and be a bit polite…I was convinced he was funny till I found out he was really serious. *don’t ask me how I found out*…Lol
I told Dimma about it and she encouraged me to get to know him. She also said I should pray about it while she do the same too.
So we kept on talking on the phone….did I just say phone? Okay things have progressed and the message ministry was not just enough so we had to try out the phone calling ministry…hahahaha.
I let him know about my decision to wait till marriage and am not going to compromise myself in any way…I just wanted to make it easy for him to go if that’s what he came for. Here am I making it easy for him to go, only for him to tell me that what I said was okay by him stating that he shares the same standard.
After 3 months of dating MrX and 4 months of breaking up from a toxic relationship, MrX proposed to me…I said “YES” girl.
I was so happy and thankful to God because he represented so many things that is in tandem with my value system and all that I have ever wanted in a man…My man okay *Lol*
Am so grateful to God that He did not just give me a husband but a God fearing man, my friend, an amazing man with a loving family.
I want to encourage sisters out there to confide in someone because most time we can’t go through this thing called life alone. We need somebody. We need accountability. It must not be a relationship, it can be something else. That’s what sisterhood its all about and am so thanklful for THE PHENOMENAL WOMAN sisterhood.
God is really faithful and He can’t deny Himself!
PS: we got married on December and I have never been so sure about any decision in my life.
This is #MyExperience